Yup, you read the title right. Conor and I have something really silly and stupid to disagree over and it is… the gender of our first child! Perhaps some of the family hasn’t heard my recent change of mind (which isn’t that recent – a few months old, but then when we consider time lines maybe it still is recent?)… Ready? I want to have a GIRL first and Conor is still true to our originally gender favouritism for a first child; he wants a BOY to precede the rest of our troops. So why is this a disagreement? I mean afterall, we should both grow-up and realize that ultimately it isn’t either of our decision. I guess we each are feeling a little selfish and want our own individual “mini-me.” Conor wants his little man so that he can have a petite buddy who equally admires cars and who he can wrestle with, etc. I want my little girlfriend (as I’ve already affectionately nick-named her) to dress up (like I’m talking we’ll be matching), bake with, read with and just be girly with! Really, truly neither of us are in the wrong but occasionally a little bit of heat’n'steam does arise from our future family conversations. Silly. Stupid. I know. But stubborn ol’ me is still determined to have my little girl be number one! Conor, love, I’m sure everyone would love to hear your side of the story.
DISCLAIMER: As far as Conor and I are aware, we are not, I repeat, ARE NOT pregnant as to our knowledge. Just had to throw that in there since we had Daria going a week ago purely by accident!
Daria
10 Mar, 2008Thank you for thinking of me Katie and making sure I wasn’t mislead by your post. You know how excited I get, I’ll try to hold it down. /images/smileys/icon_smile.gif
As for your disagreement, I can totally understand wholeheartedly how you feel. It’s been a deep deep desire all my life to have a daughter, it never happened for me and now I’m thinking it might never. I think to the future and marrying off my sons, I will have no wedding day to plan as it’s typically the Bride and her own mother who plan, no frilly dresses to make, no ballet classes to take a little one too – it’s very hard to come to terms with.
In being the oldest child in my family and a girl, I can tell you that many times I wished I had a big brother to look up to and be my protector. There’s something really incredible about big brothers (you’ve seen Dylan, he’s utterly fantastic as our first child leading out).
I think it’s perfectly normal to wish for what you’re familiar with yourself. A little mirror of you, and what a darling little girl she would be Katie!
Take heart, maybe you’ll BOTH get your wish and have BOY/GIRL Twins!!